A Letter from a Grateful Man

On August 22, 1983 - my 23rd birthday - Monsignor Gilligan gave a young, newly married father the opportunity of a lifetime: a job with the Archdiocese of Cincinnati at St. Henry's Catholic Parish. That decision forever changed the course of my life. At St. Henry's, I was blessed to meet two of my life long best friends, Father Stretch and Sister Joanne, that became as close as family to me over the years. I started out as a custodian, but over the years I grew into a myriad of different roles. I developed new skills and, more importantly, lifelong relationships.

In 2001, Father Stretch invited me to move with him to Incarnation. It was a big leap — new people, new responsibilities, and new opportunities. From day one, I was met with support, kindness, and a true sense of community. It has been my pleasure and privilege to work alongside so many amazing people at Incarnation over the years.

There have been countless memorable moments - too many to list - but some are forever etched in my heart. One of the most profound blessings was the ability to care for my beautiful wife after her diagnosis with MS in the early 2000s. Working at Incarnation gave me the flexibility and support to be by her side each day. I will always be grateful for that time, and for the fact that we were able to hold her funeral in this very church - surrounded by the most caring parishioners, staff, and students in the world.

I'll never forget those long days of snowplowing-cold, tiring, and seemingly endless at times. But what truly stood out to me was the incredible kindness of our principal, caring parishioners, and dedicated staff members. They made sure I had everything I needed-from hot coffee to sandwiches-and their support meant more than they probably realize. It truly takes a small village to keep me going, and I'm deeply grateful for every act of kindness along the way.

Some of my favorite memories are tied to the traditions of our faith. I especially love the Christmas Eve and Easter Masses, which I attend with my granddaughter Sarah. At several Easter masses, I've been tasked with building the Easter fire - something I take great pride in getting "just right."

One of the greatest joys of working at Incarnation has been riding to school with my grandchildren. Since they were born eight years apart, I've had nearly 15 years of shared morning drives — truly a gift I'll always treasure.

The first week of school has always been my favorite time of year. After a busy summer of preparation, seeing the smiles on the students' faces and feeling the energy of the staff makes all the hard work worthwhile. It's a time of new beginnings, and I've always loved being part of it.

Working for the Church - and specifically at Incarnation — has deepened my faith and inspired me to strive to be the best version of myself. It's been more than a job; it's been a ministry.

As I step into retirement, I look forward to using my time and talents to help others — especially seniors who may need assistance with home modifications to live more safely and independently. I've seen firsthand how small changes can make a big difference, and I want to be part of that help. I also plan to travel, spend time with my girlfriend Lisa, my wonderful dog Tucker, and enjoy the company of those I love. Thank you, Incarnation Family, for a lifetime of memories, friendships, and faith. I am deeply grateful.

With heartfelt gratitude,
​Rob Theewis